Discussing your feelings and needs can be difficult. However, people can only begin to understand you at a deep level if you share your feelings with them.
So go ahead and express yourself! When you don't want to talk, use a journal to explore the feelings that you have trouble communicating. This will give you some time to reflect until you are ready to talk about it.
While sharing your feelings is important, it is also crucial to actively listen. Active listening requires that you don't judge the person or the feelings and ideas being expressed.
Instead, you let the speakers know that you understand, that you appreciate the feeling behind the words, and that you accept the speaker.
It is important to see an individual as a person first, and not as a representative of a particular group. Within any given group, there is a very broad variation due to individual uniqueness. Gender, age, and cultural stereotypes are common in our society. Do the following statements sound familiar to you?
If we approach our relationships with these attitudes, thinking we have all the answers and have others figured out, we lose harmony and balance, and create an environment for competition.
Conflict management is one of the most important skills for sustaining healthy relationships. This includes clear and open communication, mutual respect, shared exploration, an orientation to collaborative problem solving, and a commitment to resolution.
Conflict management involves analyzing a situation and developing a solution that meets the needs of all concerned. Remember to actively listen and speak in a fair and balanced manner.
Do you use any of these approaches to discharge conflict?