One of the biggest challenges for families to stay connected is the busy pace of life. Mimi Doe presents seven core concepts for connected families. Doe asserts that by embracing the following seven core concepts, life can become more balanced.
According to Drs. Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks, in their book Lasting Love: The 5 Secrets of Growing a Vital, Conscious Relationship, the following concepts are instrumental in attaining a healthy and lasting relationship.
1. Become a master of commitment. Commitments need to be real, meaning that we need to make commitments consciously and realistically, not basing them on illusions or fantasy. It's important to be aware of precisely what you are committing to, so that you can realistically judge whether or not you have the capacity to follow through on the commitment.
2. Make commitments you can stand by. Healthy relationships require people to communicate effectively and to support each other. In a relationship, it is important to be honest and empathetic to each other's feelings, hopes, and dreams.
3. Break the cycle of blame and criticism. It is important to own your part in the relationship dynamics. If it appears as if something is entirely someone else's fault, remember that it always takes two. It's important to be able to set aside blame and criticism in order to effectively resolve conflicts.
4. It can be helpful to shift your attention away from "fixing the other person" and onto more creative expressions for resolving conflict. Shifting the focus in this way will help to inject more positive energy into the relationship.
5. Become a master of verbal and nonverbal appreciation. Showing appreciation of others is critical to healthy relationships. People need to feel that they are valued. Even the simplest expressions of appreciation are effective. You don't need to wait for a special occasion to express your appreciation, or to say it out loud - a smile can go a long way to showing someone you care.